Internal Dialogue

Many senior leaders will know EXACTLY what you mean if you ask them “did you switch off your internal dialogue?”. Internal dialogue can be compared to a little negative voice in your head – it may rant, name call, and generally create negative thoughts and judgements.

Bare in mind that research has shown that 99% of people do there best that they can with the resources available. So next time you see a car pull out on someone, and your internal dialogue give some expletives about the driver,ignore it. Instead think about maybe they couldn’t see the situation the way you saw it from where you were positioned. The eyes communicates to the brain at around 10 million bits of data per second. An incredible statistic! This is why police interview as many people as they can when gathering evidence.

Dr. Bandler invented the term “Neuro-Linguistic Programming” back in the 70s. The definition of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) which he created for The Oxford English Dictionary is:

“a model of interpersonal communication chiefly concerned with the relationship between successful patterns of behaviour and the subjective experiences (esp. patterns of thought) underlying them” and “a system of alternative therapy based on this which seeks to educate people in self-awareness and effective communication, and to change their patterns of mental and emotional behaviour.”

Every senior manager should have dipped their toe into NLP. It is an essential part of leadership.


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